Creating The Life I Want

Hello there,

I am pleased to report that made my target of 5 infinity scarves on Saturday…and made two more this morning.  I must confess that I thought it was going to be an easy target but they actually took longer to make than I thought.  I had to push myself to keep going on Saturday.  And I am pleased to say that I stuck with it because I’m a businesswoman!  I’m back in business and have inventory now.

I made up that schedule I mentioned so that I can keep the “distractions” under control.  I started it yesterday and it has worked beautifully so far.  I’m so glad.  I’ll continue to test it during the week and I’ll post it here when I know it works.

Another great development has happened over the last couple days:  I do believe I am turning into a businesswoman!

Symptom #1:  I am collecting my own market research information.  I logged the fabric and dimensions of every new scarf I made this weekend in a journal.  AND remembered to take pictures of them.  This is so that I can keep track of what sells or not, and how long, and to what type of customer.

Symptom #2:  I had to run a personal errand this afternoon and I took the new scarves with me just in case I ran into an opportunity to sell them!  I’ve never done that before.

See, I am turning into a businesswoman!

Gotta go because now I’m off-schedule and should be in bed.  More tomorrow.




Why is that when I REALLY focus on a goal and start doing everything in earnest to accomplish that goal, there seem to be distractions everywhere????  That is my BURNING question in life right now so I want to get it out of the way and out of my system.  The little buggers are definitely something to be conquered and controlled.  And I am determined to do so by making whatever changes need to be made to succeed first over them so I can succeed in other ways.

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I have often wondered if my many years as a legal secretary are unwittingly the root cause of many of these perceived “distractions.”  You see, as a legal secretary, my duties are (1) to keep order of calls, letters, receipts, papers, files, and people (appointments, meetings, etc.) — incoming and outgoing; (2) to answer questions or find answers to questions; and (3) to predict and stay ahead of my attorneys so services they need miraculously appear before they ask.  After 29 years of doing this, I am admittedly well organized and tidy – at home as well as at the office.  Compared to pursuing a goal, these tasks are mundane yet I am still compelled to keep order, stay  neat and tidy even when not at work.

Here then is the list of distractions to my career-changing quest and the ideal life I want:

  1. Laundry
  2. Cooking
  3. Eating
  4. Sleeping
  5. Cleaning and tidying up
  6. Getting ill (darn it)
  7. Groceries and other errands
  8. Getting and reading and answering personal mail and email
  9. Checking finances and paying bills.

Funny list, huh?  They seem like mere points of normal life but to me they have now landed on my List of Distractions to be conquered and controlled!  When all I want to do is sit down and sew and I have to stop for one of these, I feel distracted.


What to do?  You will find, in time, that I like to think in solutions.  That is to say, if something is not optimum, I want to look for a solution.  If something is in the way, I want to find a solution.  I don’t whine or dwell on problems.  So here’s my solution:  I am going to schedule these “distractions” to be addressed at certain times only and no other times.  Every other minute outside of work will then be production time I can dwell on, relish and enjoy!

Now, back to those five infinity scarves!!!

Life After Sales

Guess what?  I have no more products to sell!!!  My first experiment was a success.  What a nice problem but I still wish I didn’t have the problem.  I have quite a fabric stash and can make many more infinity scarves.  So why do I hesitate?  What’s stopping me on my path to creating a better life????  I think it’s selfishness, a trait I don’t usually have.

First, I’d be using up fabric I bought to make clothes for me before I got this bright idea.  Second, I lost my luggage last month that contained ALL my best clothes – including my velvet leopard New Year’s outfit (tastefully done, of course), five pairs of lined slacks made by yours truly, five matching jackets, five pairs of matching shoes and accessories.  See what I mean?

But having now recognized it as selfishness, it is out of my system and I will make more infinity scarves to sell.  This blogging is wonderful stuff!

I didn’t go to work yesterday due to a bad cold.  I felt so bad that I didn’t even feel like sewing.  I slept a lot and took lots of vitamins.  But I did get on my computer for a while…and entered blog heaven.  I went to my blog host’s home page and started checking out other blogs.  I “liked” a lot of them and then searched for sewing blogs.  Smorgasbord (a Swedish word meaning a varied collection)! I immediately noticed that I need to learn how include pictures here because that is key in working with an art form.  Let’s see if I can get a picture in here.

Draping sample seen in Mood’s Fabrics Store here in Los Angeles

By golly, I did it.  🙂   I’m back in business.  Tomorrow’s target is 5 more infinity scarves made.

Today’s Sales Observations

  1. I offered six handmade infinity scarves to five ladies today.  The first two in a row did not buy.  The remaining three ladies bought a total of four scarves.  LESSON LEARNED:  DON’T GET DISCOURAGED.  KEEP PROMOTING..
  2. One lady considered infinity scarves as old, something from the 80’s.  She did not buy.  Yet my 3 buyers were not familiar with them at all, and neither was I until recently.
  3. Each lady was attracted first to a scarf’s color, then the texture.  They reached right away for the one they liked, then they checked out the others and went back to the ones they liked.  They purchased the first one they touched and liked.
  4. The potential customers asked questions on how to wear the scarves, and I showed them using myself as a model.  Then I handed it to them to try.  The non-buyers did not ask questions.  No one asked the price until I offered it.  I priced them low and only mentioned the price after they seemed really interested.  LESSON LEARNED:  IT’S NOT THE PRICE; IT’S THE EASE OF USE AND WHETHER IT WILL FIT IN WITH THEIR WARDROBE.
  5. Two of the ladies bought conservative scarves — a large solid navy blue polyester and a narrow gray wool tweed polyester.   The other two scarves were a long cream chiffon with sequins and an orange tie-dyed cotton with sequins — both to the same customer.
  6. The two that did not sell today were a brown animal print and a pastel, multi-colored tie-dyed.
  7. My customer Mary is super-sensitive to fragrances and noticed perfume on her scarf.  It came from one the non-buyers who tried it on before her.  LESSON LEARNED:  BEFORE SOMEONE TRIES ON SOMETHING, ASK FIRST IF THEY ARE WEARING PERFUME.  Mary will wash it and then pay me.  We are co-workers and I want her to be happy with it.
  8. My customer who bought two scarves purchased one for herself and one as a gift.  She will pay me on Friday when we all get paid.

All these customers are my co-workers.



I sold four items today!!!!!  They were infinity scarves (circular scarves with a little twist to them) that I made over this past weekend from various fabrics that I already had.  (I need to remember to take pictures of the items I make so I can build up a  portfolio.  I’d also like to be able to show them to you.)

Selling the scarves was a win for me and validates part of my overall plan for building my business.  You see, I am building a custom clothing business.   My plan is to make small, introductory items for people and then show them the great benefits of custom clothing at an affordable price.

I fell in love with infinity scarves just a few weeks ago after I made one hurriedly out of black velvet for a formal dinner I attended.  It was a WONDERFUL wrap all evening!  So I came home, pulled fabric out and stitched up six more.  And sold four of them today!

One of my sub-goals is to sew every day.  I want to get disciplined to sew every day until I can hire others.  It also means a step forward in my business every day which is what I want.  But I haven’t sewn yet today and it’s already 10 pm.   Time to get busy!


Let’s get started!

Wow!  This is pretty cool.  I’m sitting here wondering what to write for my first post and I have a feeling that a fringe benefit of writing a blog is that it will make me a better writer.

Okay, on with this adventure.  I just wrote a nice blurb in my profile but I didn’t say what this journey is about.  This journey is about creating the kind of life I want — once and for all.  Not just dream about it, not just hope for it, not expect it to fall in my lap magically because I’ve been a good girl — but actively create it!  What a viewpoint, yes?

Personally, I don’t believe you can accomplish anything great without first having a clear sense spiritually of yourself and the world around you.  I’m delighted to say that I have gained that through my studies of Scientology and the writings of L. Ron Hubbard.   It’s been a gradual process and I need to put more of it to work.  It’s one thing to learn things and feel good about them and feel good about yourself.  It’s quite another to put what you learn to work and use it to change your life and the lives of others.

My goal with this blog is to document, target and be accountable.   I want to document the steps I’m taking so I can look back at the end of my journey and remember exactly what I did, and help others to do the same.  I want to record here what targets need to be accomplished so I don’t lose sight of the goal, plans, etc.  And I want to be accountable to someone (all you guys reading this) because I work harder when I do things for others than when I just do something for me.

The first area I want to change in my life is my career.  I have always considered sewing to be a hobby, but it’s really a passion.  I just LOVE it.  It should have been my career after high school but I was unwittingly influenced by other-determined goals (goals not set by me) at the time.  So my blog to start is mostly going to be about setting up my own sewing business.  I currently work as a legal secretary so, as you can see, there is a transition involved here.

The next area I want to change in my life is to get married again.  (More on that later after I know you better!)  Call me crazy but I believe there are a lot of great guys out there looking for someone great like me.  I just have to start looking.

The next area of my life I want to change is to help other able people to achieve their goals.  It can be very frustrating to know you can do better, to know you can achieve more and still not know how to go about it.  I have big plans to share my wins with others so they can have wins too.I hereby declare this blog to be started!!

Alethiea Taylor